Decisions, Decisions, Decisions.
Another day, another option to resolve my current situation.
My brother called me today . . . because he cares . . . and because he read my last post. Which was a little shocking, based on the number of comments he has made, I was conviced that only his girlfriend read it.
Anyway, he gave a compelling argument for moving back to Ventura . . . and back in with my parents. Ughhh. Don't get me wrong, I love my parents and I never had a problem with living with them, but I told myself I would never move back in with them.
But he brought up how much money I could save ( imagine dollar signs in my eyes right now), and he said that I would be the perfect person to help my mom fix up the place.
Those of you have been there know what I'm talking about. This is something that I have dreamed of doing for the last 4 years. I think it would be fun. I love to make things cleaner. (Ever since living with my sister that is).
Here's the problem. I've already changed my mind about where I'm going to move once, so I don't want to be hasty this time. I need to think this through.
Here's what I would like from you, my readers. . . ADVICE, and lots of it . . . submitted anonymously so I don't know who it's coming from. Give me your honest opinion. No offense will be taken.
I have to go to work now, but when I get back I expect lots and lots of comments!
11 comments:
I would still at least look for something there in SF. If you like it there, you should try to stay. If you can't..... then deal with that then and make your decision about moving in with your parents.
So at work tonight, somebody I work with said "so I heard you're looking for a place?" And I said yes I am! Then he said that he was trying to get a house with 2 other people and asked me if I was interested. I said hell yes! So if that works out good, if not I'll do what I have to do. I sort of hope it does though, because I really like the people i work with, and living out here. On the other hand, if I move back in with my parents I could really focus on my bowling.
I agree with Anonymous #1.
You should explore your options in SF. If something works out, fine. If not, you will havea place to go and you will become a better bowler.
But be sure you really know the other people who you might move in with. Maybe you can visit them where they are now to get an idea of what it would be like. Its really hard to know someone until you actually live with them...
yeah, but you can live with your friends, the people you think you know and trust and than that can go to hell too.
Another worry I have is, if I don't find a place here, and I do have to move back to Ventura, but I don't realize this until the end of january, How am I supposed to give my boss two weeks notice. I won't have any place to live as of february 1st.
Mabe better to live with strangers - that way boundries are set and its more businesslike.
Anyway, if you are transferring from one franchise to another, does that really require notice?
Maybe you could find two others to take the place of your current roomates? Maybe you wouldn't even have to move...
wow, you're in a tricky situation. how well do you know the people who'd potentially be living with you? are all of them people you work with? that's a lot of facetime with people you don't know well (if that's the case). how stable is your current job? would you be stuck to a lease?
i'm going to go out on a limb and cast a vote for bowling in Ventura.
i lived with my parents for several years after graduation. i had been on my own for awhile already, and while i got crap from my friends about being out in suburbia, it was the best thing for me at the time, because:
a) i saved a TON of money--enough to buy my own place
b) i got to spend quality time with my parents (but i'm not going to lie; at times we butted heads something fierce)
c) i learned how to cook properly
d) i helped with home improvements and stuff like shoveling snow and my rent went to a good cause
e) i only had to do 1/3 of the chores
f) i ALWAYS had something to eat
g) i took some kickass vacations
h) i had a lot more spending freedom on stupid stuff like shoes
i'd say it was a symbiotic relationship and it's definitely not for everyone. we had to have a talk about how i was not still in high school, and my parents were cool with my being out late and staying over at friends' houses on weekends. it also helped that i had a long-distance boyfriend for much of that time, but the near-distance boyfriend wasn't a problem either. i tried to treat them like roommates, and i think that helped.
good luck! i know it's not an easy decision. i'll stay posted.
Anonymous #4 - While I agree with you about the saving money thing, and the fact that I would definitely like to work on my bowling average, I was at work last night, and I just feel that I always have such a good time there. It's been a long time since I've felt that way about a job.
I know I would just be transferring to a different store with the same company, but you never know what the people are going to be like, and based on my experience with the people in Ventura . . . well, they're a little stuck up. Plus I have a friend who works at the one in Ventura, and while it he likes the people he works with he also says its very clicky there.
As for the living with my parents thing, I'm not worried about staying out late. They have always trusted me, and I think the only thing that would be different about now as opposed to when I lived there before is that I would try to be more respectful and let them know if I was going to be out late, rather than just leaving without saying a word.
Oh, and as far as the two weeks notice thing goes, I would still have to give it. Even though I'm not leaving the company, that specific store still needs to be able to cover my shifts you know? It might not have to be two weeks though, possibly just one.
Sorry to hear about the situation M Squared. I'm not going to be anonymous because well when am I ever. I say if you really like it out there then stick it out. I am a true believer in what you put your mind to you will get. If you really want to stay out there you will find a place....even if it is temp to you get a better one or whatever. But concentrate on what makes you happy and go for that. I am sure you can still take weekend trips home to help your mom with the cleaning up of the house. Its just ever since you moved out there you really seemed to like it. SD will always be here to welcome you but i don't think you were half as happy here. Also, hell if you can find a job you actually like then dang I'm jealous already. You just transitioned to there so I would try my hardest to stick it out and if it all falls through (which I don't believe it will if you put that wonderful creative mind to it....or that one guy gets a place) then you move back home and if you can't give 2 wks notices...oh well (its not like you haven't before lol F*$@ Mimi's) and two its not like you wouldn't of give 2 wks if you could of. Anywho good luck with the decision. Go for what you want girl! Ttyl
I've given it a lot of thought over the last two days, and . . . well, I think J is right. If I really want to stay out here I can. It might not be easy, but I'm sure whatever difficulties I have to go through will only make me a better person.
I've looked into hostels . . . so thats an option, and well, if that doesn't work, I'll always have that nice comfortable car to sleep in. Then all I would have to do is find a place to shower.
The gym lol. how did the thing work out with the guy from work??
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